Life can be hard. Especially if you are in an abusive relationship, or healing from one. Or if you are a woman, or a human. You catch my drift. Life can be hard for all of us sometimes. And sometimes that hymn "It Is Well With My Soul" can make you want to vomit. What...
In my blog entitled Acceptance - A Vital Part of Healing, I shared my conviction that in order to truly heal from abuse, we need to accept the fact we have been abused. I believe once we accept this fact we can learn what choices, paths, lessons and opportunities we...
I believe one of the best things a survivor of abuse can do to help with her* healing is to get out of the house and be among loving, caring friends. You might agree . . . in theory. However, the people who you thought were your friends when you were with your abuser...
Many women who have experienced domestic violence have also experienced some type of sexual assault, either in their adult relationship, or as a child. Though you may not have been forcibly raped, as a child you may have: Been exposed to pornography Been exposed to...
I took eighteen months to write this book. I began it when I realized there was a huge need for healing among my Facebook friends. Most of the women I work with have been released from the shackles of the abuse they’ve experienced. Yet, they are still shackled by the...
I have worked with many abused women* who have left their abusers, but, instead of jumping for joy as one might expect, felt drawn back into the relationship. Why might this happen? You still love him and miss him You are struggling financially Your kids miss him and...
Recently, an abusive man* contacted me via my website’s contact page. He told me he realized several months ago he had been abusing his wife for over a decade, and had stopped. Even though he was no longer abusive (his words), his wife wanted a divorce. He asked me if...
This is the final installment of my series on how to honor Domestic Violence Awareness Month. In this blog, I suggest you can honor DVAM by helping a current or former DV victim. Current domestic violence victims may seem hard to understand. They may come to you in a...
Good Morning friends! Today begins week two of Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Last week I gave several ideas for very public ways to bring awareness to the dangers of domestic violence. This week, I'd like to take a different focus. For those of us who have...
I know many women (and men) who have come out of abusive relationships. Sometimes they jump right back into one. There are many reasons for this. One of them is that they feel adrift without their abusive mate, and they have not yet learned to value themselves. So,...
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