Domestic Violence Advocates have a great tool at their disposal. It is called the Danger Assessment Instrument. Once trained, an advocate can help an abuse victim discern whether she is in imminent danger of being killed by her abuser. Of course, nothing is...
Today, I would like to talk about how a formerly strong woman gets trapped in a domestic violence relationship. Many of us have heard the analogy of a frog in a pot of boiling water. If you put a frog in a pot of boiling water, it would jump out immediately. In the...
October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Beverly Diehl is highlighting one story per day this month from a victim of DV on her Writing in the Flow website. I am honored that she chose my story to present today. Here is the link. You can also read my...
Many Christian abuse victims are given the message that God has ordained the suffering that they are experiencing, and that it would be a sin if they separated from or divorced their abuser. This belief keeps many victims trapped in unhappy marriages that can only be...
Last week I shared a blog from Kellie Jo Holly’s website Verbal Abuse Journals entitled “I Tried Marriage Counseling”. In my blog I talked about the fact that though many abuse victims are told to go to couples counseling with their abusers, many people don’t realize...
Last week I began telling the story of my walk from an unhappy marriage where I was in bondage to an abusive husband to freedom in Christ. I shared how Beth Moore’s Breaking Free* bible study gave me a new insight into how much God wants to give His people freedom....
Adults are not the only ones who are abused by their partners, teens are affected as well. I have found an excellent website to help these teens and their parents, it is called Loveisrespect.org. Here is the link. There are several excellent resources on this website....
In my last blog I talked about how hard it is for an abuse victim (you) to decide whether you are being abused, especially if the abuse is not physical. Why is this? There are many reasons: 1. Your abuser blames his* behavior on you. 2. He denies what he is doing. 3....
One of the hardest things about verbal abuse is figuring out if you are being abused. That was my biggest problem. I didn't have any bruises or broken bones to point to. My husband was so good at turning every argument around that I thought, "Maybe that was my...
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