Learn to Say "Stop It!" Last week I began my series on Holding Your Abuser Accountable. In this series I am describing the process Jesus outlines in Matthew 18 for holding a brother who sins against you accountable. This series is for you if you or someone you...
In my last blog, I talked about the fine line between emotional abuse and physical abuse. I recommended emotional abuse victims call their local domestic violence crisis center and police department to become educated. I suggested they ask questions to determine what...
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Many will speak out this month against what UNICEF calls, "one of the most pervasive human rights violations in the world today." Let me add my voice. The more who speak up, the better. Many people do not understand the...
Domestic Violence Advocates have a great tool at their disposal. It is called the Danger Assessment Instrument. Once trained, an advocate can help an abuse victim discern whether she is in imminent danger of being killed by her abuser. Of course, nothing is...
Abuse victims often have a hard time leaving their abusers. This is especially true if they have children. Abusers keep their victims under their control using many methods. One of the best methods is to threaten harm to the children if the victim should leave. Or,...
I like to write about how to recognize potential abuse in relationships because I remember how long it took me to realize I was being abused. Emotional abuse is especially hard to recognize. When my marriage got difficult, I kept thinking I was doing something wrong,...
The most dangerous time for an abused woman* is when she is trying to leave her abuser or shortly after she has. Why is this? It is because an abuser doesn’t want to lose his control over her. An abusive man has a lot of perks in the relationship. Basically, he is...
I would like to introduce you to another site that focuses on verbal abuse, written by Kellie Jo Holly. It is called Verbal Abuse Journals. Here is the link. One of her blogs is entitled "I tried Marriage Counseling”. In her blog she describes going to marriage...
It can be very painful to be a friend or family member of an abuse victim. Watching a friend go through abuse can make you feel frustrated and helpless. It may seem very obvious to you that your loved one should leave the abuser. You may wonder why she* won’t leave...
I have been talking about what to do if you decide you are being abused. One of the most important things to do is to get information. One of the best places to get this information is to call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1−800−799−SAFE(7233) or TTY...
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