Posts Tagged "Boundaries"

Spotting and Dealing with a Bully

Spotting and Dealing with a Bully

Remember those bullies from school? They seemed oh so powerful and strong . . . no one had the guts to stand up to them. Abusers are bullies in disguise. In the beginning they look like lambs when they are really…

The Comparison Trap

The Comparison Trap

Has this ever happened to you? You know something is wrong with your life, and you need to change it. Then you hear someone else’s story of suffering and you think, “What do I have to complain about? I’m just…

Healing your Anger After Abuse

Healing your Anger After Abuse

If you have recently left an emotionally abusive relationship, you may find yourself struggling with a lot of anger. This may surprise you, because often victims don’t feel angry while they are with their abuser. They may feel sad, scared, worthless,…

Do You Isolate Yourself?

Do You Isolate Yourself?

I believe one of the best things a survivor of abuse can do to help with her* healing is to get out of the house and be among loving, caring friends. You might agree . . . in theory. However,…

No Contact? How Do I Do That?

No Contact? How Do I Do That?

Are you on Pinterest? I joined to find pictures and blogs about domestic violence. Lately I have seen lots of pictures that talk about NO CONTACT with your abuser. This interests me, because it seems no contact is now a…

Advice to a Repentant Abuser

Advice to a Repentant Abuser

Recently, an abusive man* contacted me via my website’s contact page. He told me he realized several months ago he had been abusing his wife for over a decade, and had stopped. Even though he was no longer abusive (his…

Boundaries to the Rescue

Boundaries to the Rescue

In my last blog, I talked about how I was depressed last week because I’d allowed a family member to walk all over me. I then needed to figure out, what to do about it? My first instinct was to…