Posts Tagged "Boundaries"

Learning to Say “No”

Learning to Say “No”

I have a daughter whose first word was “no”. At the time, it rather startled me. My other kids’ first words were “dada” and “ball”. For this daughter, saying “no” as her first word was prophetic. Of all my kids, she is the…

Let Abusers Reap What They Sow

Let Abusers Reap What They Sow

I recently saw a blog outlining a Pastor’s response to an abuse victim’s request for help. His response infuriated me! I am sure my blood pressure went up about 20 points. Today I would like to share the original request…

Prosecuting DV Offenders

Prosecuting DV Offenders

***Trigger Warning*** On May 17, I took a webinar hosted by the National Coalition of Domestic Violence (NCADV) entitled “Prosecuting Domestic Violence Cases: Efforts to Balance Serving Society and Survivors within a Multidisciplinary Team Framework.” This webinar was presented by Jason Emmanuel…

Don’t Try to Diagnose Your Abuser

Don’t Try to Diagnose Your Abuser

Today I would like to ask those of you in abusive relationships a question: Do you try to diagnose your abusive partners?  I have worked with many people in abusive relationships who spend a lot of time wondering if their…

Fighting the Strategies of a User

Fighting the Strategies of a User

All users aren’t abusers, but all abusers are users. If you are in the beginning stages of a relationship with one of these people, they will try some common tactics to real you in. I will share some strategies you can…

Why Do I Still Love My Abuser?

Why Do I Still Love My Abuser?

I speak to many abuse victims. They contact me to understand whether they really are being abused. They contact me to seek help in leaving their abusers. Some even contact me to ask me why they still love their abusers. This…

Spotting and Dealing with a Bully

Spotting and Dealing with a Bully

Remember those bullies from school? They seemed oh so powerful and strong . . . no one had the guts to stand up to them. Abusers are bullies in disguise. In the beginning they look like lambs when they are really…