Posts Tagged "Are You Being Abused?"

Don’t Try to Diagnose Your Abuser

Don’t Try to Diagnose Your Abuser

Today I would like to ask those of you in abusive relationships a question: Do you try to diagnose your abusive partners?  I have worked with many people in abusive relationships who spend a lot of time wondering if their…

What Does the Bible Say about Abuse?

What Does the Bible Say about Abuse?

  I am continuing my intensive course. This week, my friend Rose Saad, author of A Path to Hope, was kind enough to write a guest blog for me. Many of us have tried to seek wisdom about domestic violence from our…

A Path to Hope by Rose Saad

A Path to Hope by Rose Saad

  I would like to introduce you to my new friend, author Rose Saad. She was visiting my city a few weeks ago, and took time out to meet me at a coffee shop. It was like meeting an old…

Invalidation – A Favorite Tool of an Abuser

Invalidation – A Favorite Tool of an Abuser

  Abusers have many tools in their tool belt. One of their greatest tools is to invalidate you.  What does this invalidation look like? The abuser tries to talk you out of your feelings. Here are several examples:* Ordering you to feel differently…

Forget Me Not, by Amy Daumit

Forget Me Not, by Amy Daumit

Today I have the honor of introducing you to someone special who is fighting against domestic violence. Meet Amy Daumit, author of Forget Me Not: learning to live with me and for me, which just came out last week. Amy is the…

Spotting and Dealing with a Bully

Spotting and Dealing with a Bully

Remember those bullies from school? They seemed oh so powerful and strong . . . no one had the guts to stand up to them. Abusers are bullies in disguise. In the beginning they look like lambs when they are really…

What Issues Do You Face?

What Issues Do You Face?

I sometimes hear people say, “Nothing good ever came from the web.” I disagree. I have made friends, learned a ton, and built a support network online. Recently I was contacted by a group called IssuesIFace.com. They found my blog online, and…

Abusers Are Liars

Abusers Are Liars

Abusers are liars. On some level we all know this. Yet, at times, they are able to trick us into forgetting this fact. I will give you few examples. Example A –  You are divorced from your abuser. He* has…

DV Victim and Parent – What to Do?

DV Victim and Parent – What to Do?

In my last blog, I talked about the paradoxes a domestic violence victim faces when they are also a parent. In my case, I struggled with wanting to escape my abusive marriage, but also, not wanting to put my kids…