How to Assess the Danger of a Fatality by an Abuser
Domestic Violence Advocates have a great tool at their disposal. It is called the Danger Assessment Instrument. Once trained, an advocate can help an abuse victim discern whether she is in imminent danger of being killed by her abuser. Of course, nothing is...
What’s a Husband’s Role in a Godly Marriage?
Last week I shared what the bible says about the wife’s role in a godly marriage. This week, I would like to look at what God says about the husband’s role. Both of my blogs are based on sermons given by Pastor Mark Hallock from Calvary Church in Englewood...
What Does Biblical Submission Really Mean?
I recently heard a great sermon about biblical submission given by Pastor Mark Hallock from Calvary Church in Englewood Colorado. I loved this sermon. Often when pastors try to talk about wives submitting to their husbands, abused women walk away with a sick feeling...
What Happens to the Brains of Adults Who Were Abused As Children?
Abuse victims often have a hard time leaving their abusers. This is especially true if they have children. Abusers keep their victims under their control using many methods. One of the best methods is to threaten harm to the children if the victim should leave. Or,...
How Does Verbal and Emotional Abuse Make You Feel?
How does verbal and emotional abuse make a person feel? Some people feel as if they are “going crazy”. Here is the way it is described in the book Stop! You’re Driving Me Crazy, by George R. Bach and Ronald M. Deutsch. You are always thrown off-balance. You may be...
How to Recognize a Potentially Abusive Relationship
I like to write about how to recognize potential abuse in relationships because I remember how long it took me to realize I was being abused. Emotional abuse is especially hard to recognize. When my marriage got difficult, I kept thinking I was doing something wrong,...
The Frog in Boiling Water
Today, I would like to talk about how a formerly strong woman gets trapped in a domestic violence relationship. Many of us have heard the analogy of a frog in a pot of boiling water. If you put a frog in a pot of boiling water, it would jump out immediately. In the...
What is Gaslighting? Another Word for Psychological Abuse
I have recently become aware of a “new” term used to describe psychological abuse – “gaslighting”. I put “new” in quotes because the term was actually first used in a 1938 play called Gas Light. The play was made into the movie Gaslight in 1940 and 1944. In the play...
How Can a Formerly Abused Woman Heal?
How should a woman who has left an abusive relationship begin to heal from it? This is a question that many women I speak to struggle with. I believe the first thing she must do is set boundaries around any continued relationship she has with their former abuser. As...
How Can We PREVENT Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence has some of the most alarming statistics of any social problem facing the world today. 1 in 4 women will experience it in their lifetime. Think of how staggering that statistic is. If you are in a room of 100 women, twenty-five of them have been or...