Studies for the Journey

Stop That Negative Self-Talk

Stop That Negative Self-Talk

Years ago, I went to a counselor because I was depressed. She had me try this exercise. For a period of time, (day, week), write down everything you say to yourself. This was an eye-opening exercise for me. Here are…

Change Just One Thing

Change Just One Thing

Many of us struggle with depression and/or anxiety. I have struggled with these myself on and off for years. Even though we have tried counseling and medication, we may still struggle. I am getting my master’s degree in counseling. This semester I…

How Can We Keep Our Kids Safe?

How Can We Keep Our Kids Safe?

I am a huge fan of Domestic Shelters. Not only can they help abuse victims find shelters all over the United States, they also post pertinent articles about domestic violence every week in their blog. They recently published a resource called…

Creating YOUR Reality in Court

Creating YOUR Reality in Court

I have written many times about how the family court system often sides with abusers when it comes to custody issues. I have heard some of the saddest stories in my life from abuse survivors who are treated with contempt…

Should I Stay or Leave?

Should I Stay or Leave?

Should I stay with or leave my abusive partner? This is the agonizing question many of you are asking yourselves right now. No one can answer this question for you. There are many forces pushing you first to leave, then to…

Learning to Say “No”

Learning to Say “No”

I have a daughter whose first word was “no”. At the time, it rather startled me. My other kids’ first words were “dada” and “ball”. For this daughter, saying “no” as her first word was prophetic. Of all my kids, she is the…

Let Abusers Reap What They Sow

Let Abusers Reap What They Sow

I recently saw a blog outlining a Pastor’s response to an abuse victim’s request for help. His response infuriated me! I am sure my blood pressure went up about 20 points. Today I would like to share the original request…