Studies for the Journey

Learning to Say “No”

Learning to Say “No”

I have a daughter whose first word was “no”. At the time, it rather startled me. My other kids’ first words were “dada” and “ball”. For this daughter, saying “no” as her first word was prophetic. Of all my kids, she is the…

Let Abusers Reap What They Sow

Let Abusers Reap What They Sow

I recently saw a blog outlining a Pastor’s response to an abuse victim’s request for help. His response infuriated me! I am sure my blood pressure went up about 20 points. Today I would like to share the original request…

That Crazy-Making Honeymoon Stage

That Crazy-Making Honeymoon Stage

Have you ever received a letter from your abuser where he* makes every promise you ever wanted to hear? Suddenly, your decision to leave him seems the most stupid and selfish move you have ever made. This was my experience….

Domestic Violence and Addictions

Domestic Violence and Addictions

I recently read a great article on DrugRehab.com that highlighted the link between domestic violence and substance abuse. To see the article, click here. Some people believe that an abuser using drugs or alcohol causes domestic violence. This is not…

Do I Need Professional Counseling?

Do I Need Professional Counseling?

I highly recommend professional counseling for those who have suffered any kind of abuse whether in childhood or from an intimate partner. Sometimes people feel like failures if they seek professional counseling. It is a sign of weakness, isn’t it? Wrong! In…

Prosecuting DV Offenders

Prosecuting DV Offenders

***Trigger Warning*** On May 17, I took a webinar hosted by the National Coalition of Domestic Violence (NCADV) entitled “Prosecuting Domestic Violence Cases: Efforts to Balance Serving Society and Survivors within a Multidisciplinary Team Framework.” This webinar was presented by Jason Emmanuel…

Escaping Your Abuser with Your Pets

Escaping Your Abuser with Your Pets

When planning to escape an abuser, there are many things to consider. Where will I live? What will I eat? Will I be able to find a job? What will happen to my kids? Contacting your local domestic violence center…