Studies for the Journey

What Makes a Relationship Healthy?

What Makes a Relationship Healthy?

I often talk about dysfunctional relationships. Today, I would like to look at what makes a healthy relationship. I have experienced both. My first marriage was sad. It was characterized by selfishness, control, invalidation and abuse. My second marriage is…

Don’t Try to Diagnose Your Abuser

Don’t Try to Diagnose Your Abuser

Today I would like to ask those of you in abusive relationships a question: Do you try to diagnose your abusive partners?  I have worked with many people in abusive relationships who spend a lot of time wondering if their…

How to Find a Good DV Lawyer

How to Find a Good DV Lawyer

One of the most important things you can do for yourself as a DV survivor is to find a lawyer to stand beside you when fighting against your abuser in court. The stories I hear from abuse survivors about rulings they’ve…

Fighting the Strategies of a User

Fighting the Strategies of a User

All users aren’t abusers, but all abusers are users. If you are in the beginning stages of a relationship with one of these people, they will try some common tactics to real you in. I will share some strategies you can…