Studies for the Journey

Steps to TRUE Reconciliation

Steps to TRUE Reconciliation

Reconciliation. What does this truly mean? Many abusers beg or demand their victims to forgive them for their past behaviors, even though they take no steps to change their future behaviors. At this point, in the abuser’s mind at least,…

Biblical Grounds for Divorce

Biblical Grounds for Divorce

Abuse victims in the church are often kept in bondage because they are told that abuse is not “biblical grounds for divorce.” Leslie Vernick disagrees, (and so do I). In a recent blog, Leslie answered the question, “What are biblical…

Do You Know the Signs of Verbal Abuse?

Do You Know the Signs of Verbal Abuse?

Does your intimate partner ever say you are too sensitive? Or say something cruel and then say, “I was just joking”? These are two signs that you are being verbally abused. I recently came upon an article that gives a…

The Voice of a Sexual Abuse Survivor

The Voice of a Sexual Abuse Survivor

The more I work with domestic violence survivors, the more I realize how many have been sexually abused as children. I am no longer shocked in my counseling sessions when someone begins sharing how their father, uncle, brother or cousin…

How to Forgive the Unforgivable?

How to Forgive the Unforgivable?

Forgiveness? What the heck? Why am I even talking about this? Most of you reading this today have been abused, either in childhood or by an intimate partner. The things that have happened to you should never happen to any…

How Can We Heal Our Hearts?

How Can We Heal Our Hearts?

Many of us are walking around with broken hearts. This isn’t visible to those around us, but it is a reality. How can we mend these broken hearts? I recently read a great piece on this in the book¬†The Essential…

Healing from Childhood Sexual Abuse

Healing from Childhood Sexual Abuse

Many who are abused as adults were also abused as children – either emotionally, physically or sexually. The number of people who have experienced this is shocking and tragic. Getting past any of these is difficult, but I can’t imagine…

Pastors, Protect Your Church

Pastors, Protect Your Church

The folks at A Cry For Justice recently shared a guest blog¬†written by an American pastor. After dealing with abusers in his own church, this pastor came to several surprising conclusions about how a pastor should handle abuse within the…