Studies for the Journey

Domestic Violence Experienced by Men

Domestic Violence Experienced by Men

For six years I have been a domestic violence advocate, helping abuse victims and survivors. The vast majority have been women. Having very little experience with male victims, I have often wondered what their experience might be like. Recently, a…

What Lies Do You Believe?

What Lies Do You Believe?

Many of us unconsciously believe lies about ourselves, others, and God. Being abused can mess with your mind. We begin believing the negative (untrue) things our abusers say about us. Then, without realizing it, we act on the lies we…

Do You Have a Narcissistic Parent?

Do You Have a Narcissistic Parent?

  Many of us grew up with emotional, sexual, or physical abuse. Did you? You may not have experienced overt abuse, but maybe you were raised by one or more parents who put themselves and their needs before yours. The…

Stop That Negative Self-Talk

Stop That Negative Self-Talk

Years ago, I went to a counselor because I was depressed. She had me try this exercise. For a period of time, (day, week), write down everything you say to yourself. This was an eye-opening exercise for me. Here are…

Change Just One Thing

Change Just One Thing

Many of us struggle with depression and/or anxiety. I have struggled with these myself on and off for years. Even though we have tried counseling and medication, we may still struggle. I am getting my master’s degree in counseling. This semester I…

How Can We Keep Our Kids Safe?

How Can We Keep Our Kids Safe?

I am a huge fan of Domestic Shelters. Not only can they help abuse victims find shelters all over the United States, they also post pertinent articles about domestic violence every week in their blog. They recently published a resource called…

Creating YOUR Reality in Court

Creating YOUR Reality in Court

I have written many times about how the family court system often sides with abusers when it comes to custody issues. I have heard some of the saddest stories in my life from abuse survivors who are treated with contempt…