Boundaries to the Rescue
In my last blog, I talked about how I was depressed last week because I'd allowed a family member to walk all over me. I then needed to figure out, what to do about it? My first instinct was to push this person out of my life. Well, you can't really do that with...
Do You Ever Get Depressed?
Last week was awful. For the third year in a row, I sunk into a deep depression in winter. Yes, I do think this is partly due to S.A.D., otherwise known as Seasonal Affected Disorder. It is February after all. I've been sitting in the house, attached to my computer...
Holding Your Abuser Accountable – Part 4 of 4
Tell It to the Church - Last week I wrote Part 3 in my series on Holding Your Abuser Accountable. In this series I am describing the process Jesus outlines in Matthew 18 for holding a brother who sins against you accountable. This series is for you if you or someone...
Holding Your Abuser Accountable – Part 3 of 4
Bring One or Two Others Along - Last week I wrote Part 2 in my series on Holding Your Abuser Accountable. In this series I am describing the process Jesus outlines in Matthew 18 for holding a brother who sins against you accountable. This series is for you if you or...
Holding Your Abuser Accountable – Part 2 out of 4
Learn to Say "Stop It!" Last week I began my series on Holding Your Abuser Accountable. In this series I am describing the process Jesus outlines in Matthew 18 for holding a brother who sins against you accountable. This series is for you if you or someone you...
Holding Your Abuser Accountable – Part 1 of 4
I believe that the only hope for anyone to change is for him/her to feel the need to change. Let's say you are in a destructive relationship. If your destructive partner's actions are working for them, there is no reason for them to change. When their actions start...
Come as You are
Merry Christmas my friends. Some of you are joyous today, and others intensely sad. No matter how you are feeling, I’d love to share a beautiful song with you. It is Crowder’s song, Come as You Are*. It perfectly describes the love and freedom we have in Jesus. Here...
Live at Peace
Jesus came to earth so we could live at peace with God and with others. A victim of domestic violence can be at peace with God, but she* will never be able to be at peace with her abuser. Paul the apostle counsels us in Romans 12:18: If it is possible, as far as it...
Thanks Mom
My friend Nicole of Nikky’s Strength and Weakness, is blogging every day in the month of December about gratitude. She got this idea from another blogger, Jodi Aman. You can check out both these ladies via this link. Jodi reminds us that when we focus on being...
How to Forgive Yourself
In my last blog, I gave several reasons why forgiving yourself is important when healing from abuse. Today, I’d like to share some practical steps for doing this. The following is taken from my book, A Journey to Healing after Emotional Abuse. Step 1 – Seek God’s...