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Giving Up Our Tendency to Overfunction

Giving Up Our Tendency to Overfunction

In my last blog, I talked about how many of us tend to overfunction in our relationships. Think this is a 21st century idea? Nope. Moses, the prophet who led the Israelites out of Egypt was the quintessential overfunctioner. In…

Do You Over-Function?

Do You Over-Function?

Do you over-function in your relationships? Many of us do. What do I mean by over-functioning?¬†Before I describe over-functioning, let me describe someone who is functioning optimally. (I found these descriptions in a blog by Dr. Will Meek.) Optimal Functioning…

Submission – What the Bible Really Says

Submission – What the Bible Really Says

Submission – What the Bible Really Says Biblical Submission. This is a difficult topic. Many abusive spouses and churches take what God meant for good and twist it into something that keeps women in bondage to their abusive spouses. So,…

Rebuilding Your Children’s Trust

Rebuilding Your Children’s Trust

In my last blog, I talked about the ways your kids have been affected by the abuse you’ve experienced, a difficult topic. Today, I will talk about how you can begin to help them heal from the domestic violence you…

How the Abuse You Receive Affects Your Kids

How the Abuse You Receive Affects Your Kids

In my last blog, I talked about how seeing or experiencing domestic violence affects the lifelong health of children. Today, I explore this further. This is a tough topic, something about which no protective parent wants to think. However, I…

Thinking Through If/When You Should Leave

Thinking Through If/When You Should Leave

Deciding whether to leave an abusive relationship is not an easy task. People who have never been in this situation often don’t understand this.¬† In their mind, you are being abused, you should leave, ASAP. They don’t understand how incredibly…

Steps to TRUE Reconciliation

Steps to TRUE Reconciliation

Reconciliation. What does this truly mean? Many abusers beg or demand their victims to forgive them for their past behaviors, even though they take no steps to change their future behaviors. At this point, in the abuser’s mind at least,…

Biblical Grounds for Divorce

Biblical Grounds for Divorce

Abuse victims in the church are often kept in bondage because they are told that abuse is not “biblical grounds for divorce.” Leslie Vernick disagrees, (and so do I). In a recent blog, Leslie answered the question, “What are biblical…