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How the Abuse You Receive Affects Your Kids

How the Abuse You Receive Affects Your Kids

In my last blog, I talked about how seeing or experiencing domestic violence affects the lifelong health of children. Today, I explore this further. This is a tough topic, something about which no protective parent wants to think. However, I…

Thinking Through If/When You Should Leave

Thinking Through If/When You Should Leave

Deciding whether to leave an abusive relationship is not an easy task. People who have never been in this situation often don’t understand this.  In their mind, you are being abused, you should leave, ASAP. They don’t understand how incredibly…

Steps to TRUE Reconciliation

Steps to TRUE Reconciliation

Reconciliation. What does this truly mean? Many abusers beg or demand their victims to forgive them for their past behaviors, even though they take no steps to change their future behaviors. At this point, in the abuser’s mind at least,…

Biblical Grounds for Divorce

Biblical Grounds for Divorce

Abuse victims in the church are often kept in bondage because they are told that abuse is not “biblical grounds for divorce.” Leslie Vernick disagrees, (and so do I). In a recent blog, Leslie answered the question, “What are biblical…

Do You Know the Signs of Verbal Abuse?

Do You Know the Signs of Verbal Abuse?

Does your intimate partner ever say you are too sensitive? Or say something cruel and then say, “I was just joking”? These are two signs that you are being verbally abused. I recently came upon an article that gives a…

Surviving the Holidays

Surviving the Holidays

Surviving the Holidays The holidays are supposed to be joyful and fun-filled. Sometimes they are, but often that is not our experience. The holidays can be especially painful for you if you are depressed, are mourning a loved one, or…

The Voice of a Sexual Abuse Survivor

The Voice of a Sexual Abuse Survivor

The more I work with domestic violence survivors, the more I realize how many have been sexually abused as children. I am no longer shocked in my counseling sessions when someone begins sharing how their father, uncle, brother or cousin…